Life happens. I want to start this article by affirming my belief in the limitlessness of love. When confronted with realities such as a partner falling in love with someone else, it’s easier to feel dejected. Understandably so. Some people question their self-worth, and dignity, and sink into depression. No matter your real or perceived culpability in the situation; be gentle with yourself. Love doesn’t define you. On the contrary, I believe the universe aligns as it should. When the push comes to shove, keep your cool and take refuge in the hope for better tidings. There must be something better out there!
It’s tough
When you love someone else other than your partner, it can be a tough situation to navigate. On the one hand, you may feel happy and content in your new relationship. But on the other hand, you may feel guilty about betraying your partner’s trust. Battling conflicting feelings is the least enviable task. I wouldn’t wish it even on my worst enemy. The last thing you need is judgment. As you know, here at the Joy Vibes, our biggest desire is to see you happy. Sometimes, love doesn’t make sense. It all comes down to taking care of your welfare. Focus on the things that matter and let self-love hold you in good stead.
How to deal with when you love someone else
If you find yourself in love with someone other than your partner, the best thing to do is talk to your partner about it. It may not be easy, but it’s important to communicate openly and honestly with each other. Be open and speak your truth. It may hurt but it sets everyone free. From there, you can decide what to do next. You may decide to stay in your current relationship or you may decide to leave and pursue a new one. The most important thing is that you make the decision that’s best for you.
Allow your partner to vent
No one likes rejections. So, when you love someone else, your partner is bound to feel hurt and may need some time to process the news. During this time, it’s important to be understanding and give them space to express their feelings. They may need to vent and let off some steam. Just be there for them and listen. However, make sure the venting does not become abusive. Let sanity prevail and deal with the prevailing issues with a rational head.
What not to do when you love someone else
There are certain things you should avoid doing when you love someone else. These include:
1. Don’t try to justify your actions: It won’t help the situation and will only make things worse.
2. Don’t compare your current relationship with your previous one: This will only serve as a reminder of what they’re missing out on and will make them feel even worse.
3. Don’t make promises you can’t keep: If you’re not sure about your feelings, don’t make promises you can’t keep. It will only lead to more hurt and disappointments.
Hope springs eternal
If your partner is receptive, they may be willing to work on things together with you. However, if they’re not receptive, then you’ll have to make a decision about whether or not to stay in the relationship. It’s not easy to rebuild the trust but with a clear roadmap and willingness to forgive and accept the reality, anything is possible.
In the end, it all comes down to love
No matter what happens, love always finds a way to triumph. Whether you end up staying with your partner or not, love will always be the answer. Allow love but this doesn’t mean you openly disregard other people’s feelings. Beware of the pain, hurt, and frustration a failed relationship causes the other party. Therefore, be sensitive and acknowledge the need to treat others with dignity and utmost love.
Be honest…always
It’s important, to be honest with yourself about your feelings. If you’re truly in love with someone else, then you need to figure out what to do next. It’s not fair to stay in a relationship where you’re not fully committed.
If you decide to break up with your partner, do it respectfully. Let them know why you’re leaving and give them time to process the news. It won’t be easy, but it’s probably the best decision for everyone involved.
Final thoughts
If you love someone other than your partner, know that you’re not alone. It’s a difficult situation to be in, but it’s one that you can overcome with time and communication. Be honest with yourself and your partner, and focus on making the decision that’s best for you. Don’t forget to take care of yourself along the way. Most importantly, remember that love doesn’t define you. You are so much more than who you love.
