Ever heard of Steve McNair? He was a successful NFL quarterback who was married with four kids. In 2003, he had been co-named the Co-Most Valuable Player in the National Football League (NFL). The achievement barely scratches the surface of a man who soared to great heights in the profession. In 2009, he was shot and killed by his mistress, Sahel Kazemi who later turned the gun on herself. Boom! All in the name of love. Yet this is only one of the countless cases of love gone sour. The mistress suspected McNair was cheating on her and decided to take the regrettable act of ending their lives. Today, people remember this horrible act more than the admirable and commendable career highs of Steve McNair. That’s how messy love can become.
People are crazy
I say this with the best intentions at heart.
When people are in love, this feeling can make them do things they never thought possible, like killing the person they claim to love. If you find yourself in a love relationship that feels unsafe or uncomfortable in any way, get out before it’s too late. No matter how good things might seem on the surface, always trust your instincts and go with your gut feeling. It’s better to be safe than sorry.
Love can make people do crazy things. It can turn an innocent person into a cold-blooded killer. So, if you ever feel unsafe in love, trust your instincts and get out before it turns ugly. Also, think before you act. Love is not worth the pain and guilt of taking a life.
Think before you act
When things are not working between you and your partner, take a break. Walking away is one of the most ignored aspects of relationships. Pause and examine your values, dreams, and aspirations. Weigh the pros and cons of your actions. Taking a step back will give you a better perspective on things. It will also help prevent you from making hasty decisions that you might regret later on.
Importantly, love should bring feelings of safety and mutual respect. If it doesn’t, then it’s not true love. True love is built on a foundation of trust, communication, and understanding. So, if you find yourself in a situation where love is killing you, literally or figuratively, walk away before it’s too late.
Creating Safety in Relationships
Love is a beautiful thing. But it can also be dangerous. If you find yourself in an unsafe or unhealthy relationship, there are steps you can take to create safety for yourself.
First, trust your instincts. If something feels wrong, it probably is. Second, communicate with your partner. Talk about your concerns and be honest about your feelings. Transparency fosters trust and emotional safety. Importantly, be accountable for your words and actions. When partners are responsible, it communicates value and respect for each other. Third, set boundaries. Make it clear what you will and will not tolerate in a relationship. Fourth, get help if you need it. There are many resources available to help you create a safe and healthy relationship. Check out your state’s helplines in case of domestic violence or whenever you feel unsafe.
When love kills, it leaves behind a trail of destruction. It wrecks families and destroys careers. It breaks hearts and shatters lives. But worst of all, love gone wrong can turn an innocent person into a cold-blooded killer. You can be sure that when caught, you’ll face the full wrath of the law. I know you may feel rightly aggrieved but an eye for an eye blinds all of us.
Emotional security in relationships
Making your partner feel emotionally safe in a relationship is paramount. Avoid abusing their trust and exploiting their weaknesses. Be a decent person. It begins with you. If love doesn’t feel safe, it isn’t love. So, take measures to ensure the safety of your relationship by not transferring your insecurities and baggage to your partner. Work on yourself. Get help if you need it. Seek counseling if you’re having difficulty communicating with your partner. And most importantly, love yourself first. Only then can you truly love someone else.
Finally
Give your partner some benefit of the doubt. They love you too. After all, love is a two-way street. So, be understanding and compassionate. That doesn’t mean being a doormat. It just means making an effort to see things from their perspective as well. Stop judging and making up hurtful and unfounded stories about your significant other. Disagreements will most likely arise but create a safe rather than the confrontational environment to iron out the issues. Research indicates that people’s motivations are subconscious and connected to the baggage they bring to a relationship. Hope that gives you some perspective.
When love kills, we all lose. So, let’s work together to create healthy and safe relationships. We owe it to ourselves and to the ones we love.
